Trim Size: 6x9
ISBN 10: 978-0692177
ISBN 13: 978-0692177235
Publisher: Suanne Laqueur
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- How age affects your sense of sexual identity
- The negative impact family/friends can have on our mental state
- The difficulty in realizing your future isn’t locked in place, you can change it
- How even the most catastrophic family fighting can be overcome
- Added pressures LGBTQ individuals face in homes with English as a second language
Suanne Laqueur’s An Exaltation of Larks earned raving reviews for its commitment to examining the complicated world of discovering who you are regarding your sexual orientation despite massive pressure to suppress your feelings. What sets An Exaltation of Larks apart from other stories with gay or lesbian characters, is the fact that two males characters who question their own yearnings are forced to fight the traditional Latino sense of machismo or being a man.
A New York native, Suanne Laqueur grew up in Croton-On-Hudson before graduating from Alfred University. A former business analyst for Verizon, Suanne launched her writing career with “The Man I Love” in 2014 and since then she’s piled up the awards, including the Writer’s Digest Grand Prize for An Exaltation of Larks, which also won first place in the 2019 North Street Book Prize. The author of seven novels, Suanne lives in the Hudson valley with her family. Trivia: Not only did she teach ballet for 10 years, but she also learned how to climb a telephone pole.
Q & A
I believe you know who you are, but age definitely plays a role in having the language to express who you are. Today’s kids are much more likely to have contemporaries with same-sex parents, starting in preschool. So the conversation is starting earlier, about different kinds of families and different kinds of couples, but when you’re that young, you’re not connecting “straight” or “gay” to the act of sex. You’re not thinking of those words in the context of Doing It. You don’t know what It is. And in talking with my LGBTQ friends, a lot of them, in their words, “knew what gay meant, but I didn’t know what it meant. I didn’t know until teens.” So in that sense, age plays a part in terms of language, and a much bigger part in accepting who you are, declaring who you are and remaining true to who you are.
Absolutely. Not being accepted by your family, your home, your tribe is the most devastating of rejections. It not only draws lines between the individual and the family, but between family members. Some LGBT people keep close contact with a single sibling while being estranged from parents.
I hope one day that straight people have to put just as much thought into this question as LGBTQ people. As a heterosexual woman, I can’t speak definitively to the subject, but in conversation with my LGBTQ friends, I’ve learned for the most it’s a series of little moments adding up.
Of course it’s possible, with love and humility and acceptance and a ton of talking and, occasionally, therapy. If conditions are imposed, it might not mean a full reconciliation. If a parent says, “I accept you’re gay but I don’t ever want to talk about it and your boyfriend can’t come for Thanksgiving,” what exactly has been overcome?
I don’t know how anyone learned about anything before the internet. Seriously, there is no question that can’t be answered if you have the patience and creativity to go looking for it. And I had to look around a long time to get past the business firewall, if you will, and locate the people behind the profession. I did a lot of lurking on different kinds of forums, reading through posts and discussions. I found this one male escort who started a thread called “I’m An Escort: Ask Me Anything.” So I did. And then I reached out privately, explained who I was and what I was doing, and could I ask him some more questions? He was extremely generous and honest, he introduced me to two other guys he knew in the business, and from the most interesting parts of these three interviews, I compiled the character of Javier.